Searching for Space

In my March contribution to The Pastry Box Project, Searching for Space, I share the story of why I left NY to find what I was looking for, and how I eventually found it within myself. My heart started racing. My palms got sweaty. I couldn’t breathe. I felt faint. Out of nowhere I screamed [Keep Reading…]

Awakening to Buddhism

I’ve been a Buddhist my entire life — though I didn’t know to call it that until recently. I made a career out of reducing human suffering. In 2002, I was called to Human-Computer Interaction to reduce the suffering caused by technology, the result of a lack of mindfulness and compassion in the design and [Keep Reading…]

Where Compassion is Born

An excerpt from my dialogue with Paul McAleer on our podcast Designing Yourself, Episode #9: Embracing the Suffering (originally aired October 1, 2013), with minimal editing for readability. The things we don’t like in others are the things we don’t fully understand. It’s a sign we haven’t gone out of our way to develop empathy [Keep Reading…]

Nothing is Permanent but Change

No man ever steps in the same river twice for it’s not the same river and he’s not the same man.” — Heraclitus We talk about change as though it’s something that happens once in a while, we’re “going through a period of change,” as though it isn’t happening all of the time. Change is [Keep Reading…]

Going back to the cave

John J. Locke, in a comment on Where in the World is Whitney? San Diego posted January 16, 2014. I can relate to “going back to the cave” to regroup and reinvent yourself. Life is a series of stages. We never *really* know what’s going to happen next, although we try to plan it. I [Keep Reading…]

Confidence on the Inside

I don’t want to be invulnerable. I don’t want to be in a state where I can’t be penetrated, where I can’t be influenced, where I can’t be molded in some way. I want to be vulnerable. I just want to be at peace with that vulnerability, and that’s something I haven’t been able to [Keep Reading…]

More Is Less

There are all of these devices that attempt to let me to do a lot more than I was able to do before they existed. It creates this new normal where now I am a superwoman. I start doing more than I was ever capable of before. Then other people start to get used to [Keep Reading…]