In my April contribution to The Pastry Box Project, Who Do We Think We Are?, I share my frustration with the rampant intellectual bullying I have observed in our community, and how I’ve overcome my own tendency to contribute to it.
Now we’ve all heard the saying about the cobbler’s children having no shoes, and it would be an easy retort to say I’m so booked up with client work that I don’t have the time to fiddle with my website. But why should I have to? Why do we as a community tolerate this kind of intellectual bullying? Why is it socially acceptable to point out all the ways other people aren’t performing to our (unachievable) standards?
What might happen if we redirected the energy we spend tearing others down on building ourselves up? What might we all be able to create then?
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Shawn Rubel says
In most cases, it’s not the given persons problem that his child is sick; and it certainly has nothing to do with the design of his website, so I think the need to feel sorry for him really needs to be cut out from this article. You’re giving the reader unnecessary thing to think about, only to try and make the story feel more real and appealing.
I’m not being rude, just brutally honest. I agree with what you have to say, and I honestly think that listening to asshats is a complete waste of time, and these days – the actual web design has a lot less to do with the persons personality than we may initially think.
Yes, compassion and empathy are often the last things we consider, especially when we have egos to tend and dollars to earn. Being a jerk is just part of being human (I do it all the time!) and it’s good to check ourselves; I appreciated this post because it encourages that kind of thoughtfulness. Anyone who claims to be an active builder of a better world (isn’t that what UX designers do?) have to check themselves even more often, right? Oh, and regarding your point Shawn Rubel, I respectfully disagree that drawing attention to the information ON the website is irrelavent. Isn’t a design a container for meaning?