Friend, I tell you this because I think you need to hear it: You have to make yourself. We all do. Everyone has to grind it out in places that don’t get what we do or why it matters. Even the greats…especially the greats! But the ones who ultimately succeed don’t wait around for someone [Keep Reading…]
Do You Give Yourself Permission?
Whether you’re my best friend or we’ve never even met, I know a secret about you: you’re capable of more than you realize. How can I be so sure? Because the 70+ people I’ve coached over the last 14 months have proven it to be true. Over and over and over again, I watch people [Keep Reading…]
I Need Help
Originally published on the Pastry Box Project one year ago today on September 10, 2014 If you want something done right, do it yourself. That’s what we’re taught anyway. So we hone our self-reliance over a lifetime of hardship. We convince ourselves of others’ inadequacy and marvel in our own superiority. Everyone else is simply [Keep Reading…]
Lean On
Originally published on the Pastry Box Project one year ago today on August 10, 2014 I haven’t been sleeping well lately. I’ve had a lot on my mind. Building my coaching business. Finding a new place to live. Trying to buy a sailboat. Negotiating contracts on upcoming speaking gigs. Rewriting a book proposal for what [Keep Reading…]
A New Way to Be
Originally published on Medium two years ago today on June 1, 2013 Finding my spirituality. Doing yoga on the beach. Starting to meditate. Searching for retreats. Wondering about Buddhism. Reading about mindfulness and mindlessness. Eating better. Sleeping more. Waking up at the same time every day. Riding my bike. Spending less money on frivolous things. [Keep Reading…]
Living Life as an Observer
On being a loner and grappling with loneliness Originally published on Medium two years ago today on May 19, 2013 For as long as I can remember, I expected to spend my life alone. I’m an only child and got used to playing by myself at a very young age. I was never one for [Keep Reading…]
Speak and Be Seen
Originally published on Ladies in Tech on March 12, 2013 My mom loves to tell a story about when she and my dad came to see me in a play at day camp. I was six. I had the very important job of carrying title cards from stage-left to stage-right, which depicted time passing between [Keep Reading…]
We Create Our Own Stress
An excerpt from my dialogue with Paul McAleer on our podcast Designing Yourself, Episode #18: Under Pressure (originally aired July 24, 2014), with minimal editing for readability. I require deadlines. When I don’t have deadlines, and things are open-ended, they just don’t get done. When someone makes a request of me, even something totally benign [Keep Reading…]
Getting Ready to Change
An excerpt from my dialogue with Paul McAleer on our podcast Designing Yourself, Episode #16: Ready Set Go (originally aired July 1, 2014), with minimal editing for readability. Two weeks ago I was finally certified as a professional coach. I was in this yearlong certification program where I was trained to be a professional coach [Keep Reading…]
What to Show for My Success
An excerpt from my dialogue with Paul McAleer on our podcast Designing Yourself, Episode #15: Growing Up (originally aired May 30, 2014), with minimal editing for readability. We got rid of a lot of stuff when we left New York. We could only keep what fit in the Jeep. That was it. So it required [Keep Reading…]
