As I take a step back and look around, I’m beginning to notice that a lot of what I do as a coach, as a writer, as a speaker, even as a designer, is helping people get back into their bodies. This has been the focus of my own self-care and inner work since the [Keep Reading…]
Because I Didn’t Smile
Originally published on Medium two years ago today on July 23, 2013 “You haven’t smiled even once today,” he growls at me. “Yes I have.” “No…you haven’t.” And I sulk some more. So what if I’ve been lost in thought today? I have a lot going on. There’s a lot on my mind. Why do [Keep Reading…]
What the Mind Alone Can Never Know
An excerpt from my dialogue with Paul McAleer on our podcast Designing Yourself, Episode #12: High on Life (originally aired April 7, 2014), with minimal editing for readability. “Your body language shapes who you are.” Amy Cuddy is a researcher, and she speaks with the science rhetoric. What her study found and the way she [Keep Reading…]
Embodying Empathy
The funny thing about empathy is that everyone thinks they have it, and yet so few people show it. Empathy is defined as the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. But it’s not enough to understand, we have to act. Understanding happens in the mind. Action happens in the body. To care [Keep Reading…]
How We Pose Shapes How We Feel
In all the research I’ve done on empathy, the biggest driver I’ve found of someone’s ability to empathize with others is their own self-awareness. We all know the saying: you can’t love anyone else until you love yourself. Well, it’s true. Empathy starts with self-love. And the road to self-love starts with self-awareness. The funny [Keep Reading…]
